Marriage can be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling relationships you will ever have. It can also be the reason for a lot of stress and pain. This is because as you get close to someone, you allow yourself to be vulnerable, which can leave you open to getting hurt. Luckily, there are some things that you can do to keep your marriage healthy while still maintaining a positive identity and self-image. Here are a couple things.
1. Know You Are Responsible For Your Own Happiness
One of the greatest dangers of marriage is becoming co-dependent. This is when one or both spouses find themselves holding the other person responsible for their happiness and emotions. For example, if your spouse has a hard day at work, do you find yourself unable to focus, stressed, worried or angry the entire day? Are you unable to separate your personal emotions from those of your spouse? If that is the case you may be in a co-dependent relationship. This can be fixed by each spouse learning that although they love, support and help their spouse, they are not responsible for their spouse's happiness or choices. Instead, you can only control yourself. Learning this can allow you to stay emotionally healthy.
2. Maintain Your Personal Hobbies
When you get married you may be tempted to leave behind your old interests and hobbies and embrace everything that your spouse loves. Although it is great to try new things and enjoy new hobbies together, it is important to maintain your own identity and interests. It is ok to have hobbies that your spouse doesn't love. It is fine if the wife wants to have a girl's night or if the husband wants to have a boy's night, where they aren't with their spouse. These kinds of activities help you to maintain your identity and have a healthy self-image.
3. Learn The Art Of Compromise
Lastly, it is vital to every married person to learn how to compromise. This has to be a two way street. Both spouses need to have times where they feel like they give in and other times where they feel like they won. Both couples need to feel like they are giving 100% to the marriage, but they also need to feel respected and like their views are heard and validated. This comes from both spouses learning how to compromise.
These are just a couple things that you can do to encourage a happy and healthy marriage. For more information, contact a business such as the Center for Relationships.